Soul of Discipline for Tweens and Teens

Note:  This live webinar is completed but recordings will soon be available for purchase.

There are a few standout moments as a parent and some of them are seemingly simple little exchanges that tell us that something is going on.

Mary McAuthur a parent of an 11 year-old daughter comments “It was no big deal really, but I remember the day so clearly that my daughter melted down because I wouldn’t let her read Seventeen Magazine.”  Mary took this step after reading through the magazine and its contents.  “It was so dramatically inappropriate and sexually suggestive that I was speechless that my daughter and her friends would feel so strongly about it.”
David Sherman a parent of a 12 year-old boy comments, “He would demand to not be treated like a little child but I knew he was not capable of handling all the teen stuff.”

“My 15 year old gets so frustrated.  I know with my head that more and more it’s his life to lead and his consequences to face but, my heart still knows that he needs me,” says Michelle Johansson.

“I’ve seen other parents struggle with giving their older kids boundaries that work.  I need to think about this before my children are that age.” Taylor Donatello, mother 6 year-old twins.

In these sessions we will balance developing a deeper understanding with practical strategies of raising 10 -18 year-olds . We will be exploring the major themes such as…


The Overview:  The Big Picture

Being able to transition. The right discipline and guidance for the right phase

Brain based developmental picture

  • Governor
  • Gardener
  • Guide


Breaking it Down: Understanding the Small Stages

Preparation, 10-12

Twilight & pre-dawn

Negation, 13-14

The search for role and identity

Turning Point, 15-16


Demanding Change – Needing Stability

Friends and crushes

Affirmation, 17-18

Idealism – disappointment


Coming of Age.

Rights and Responsibilities.  Where Has This Gone?


Power of the Peer Group

“But they are my friends!”


“I” of the Needle.

Understanding and Anticipating Risk Taking & Experimentation


Emerging Sexual Identity and How to Work With It

Four Types of Love


When a Tween Pushes the Boundaries

What’s your plan?

You are a team player


When a Teen Pushes the Boundaries

What is your aim?

Did that give direction or distraction?


About the Presenter

This recorded video series is taught by Kim John Payne, author of the international bestselling book, Simplicity Parenting. Kim has been a school counselor, adult educator, consultant, researcher, educator and a private family counselor for over 27 years. He regularly gives keynote addresses at international conferences for educators, parents, and therapists and runs workshops and trainings around the world. In each role, he has been helping children, adolescents and families explore issues such as social difficulties with siblings and classmates, attention and behavioral issues at home and at school, emotional issues such as defiance, aggression, addiction and self-esteem and the vital role living a balanced simple life brings.



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